What it is: A home grown subpersonality where the neurological pathways are subliminally manipulated in such a way as to form an inner entity that struggles to connect with many others. The "I" am better than "you" self.

Synomyms: Snobs, Elitists, Blue Bloods.

Irony: The underpriviledged mentality, opposite to the priviledged mentality, operates the same way. They are each others shadows.

- "One Woman's Thoughts"
- Balance Is The Path

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All things are within us...thats what I believe. And although I don't believe there is any way to cut an emotion out of us, there are ways to acknowledge and balance emotions inside us. Still, every now and again an unwanted emotion enters our conscious psyche. Today, that happened to me. A punch in the dark.

Amongst all the holiday spirit during this time of year,my powerful yet unwanted Inner Atheist reared its head. I can't say reared its ugly head without acknowledging that the Inner Spiritual Believer is the part of me feeling that way. The Inner Spiritual is so primary to me and distains the idea of non belief for me; it has a very clear judgement toward my own atheism. But, with our without permission from anyone or any subpersonality, my athiest paid me an unexpected visit and barged in to my conscious home.

I was simply thinking how absolutely simplistic and yet magical a child's thinking pattern is. I thought, entertainingly, "How could a child actually believe in a Santa that knows all the Christmas wishes of all children, and can deliver all these toys to children in one evening on a airborn sled (that can fit all those toys), being pulled by flying reindeer? I was laughing to myself, lovingly musing and enjoying the idea, when suddenly I was assaulted by my Inner Athiest in such a powerful and logical way that it stole something from me, hopefully temporarily. It thought, "Why is this so amusing to you? Is a child believing in Santa really any different than a supposedly logical and intelligent adult thinking that God can hear every person's prayers at all times, answer them at will, and know our every thought and deed? Does that really sound possible or logical to you?". It thought, "is prayer any different than writing a letter to Santa...isn't it just like a child's wish list? How can Santa be everywhere at once, knowing if we've been naughty or nice? He can't be. How could God be everywhere at one time? That idea is as ridiculous as believing in Santa. How could adults understand that Santa does not exist, yet think that God does, when they both actually share similar functions...being everywhere, hearing our wishes, giving us our needs through a letter or a prayer".

My Inner Athiest can hold its own. It made observant enough assessments that it caught hold of and clustered with my "Mind" subpersonality, which is also primary to me. Depletion hit me like a brick wall as my "Inner Spiritual" shriveled up inside me.

The waves of the Athiest continue to come and go, and continue to knock me down at my shoreline. Beyond this, I know (from a place inside that is beyond thinking) that only Spirit exists. But for now, my Athiest and Believer are in an internal war. This has happened before to me, many times, but without quite such a blow. Still, I know that my Athiest is a real part of me, and I honor it, I need to hear what it has to offer me. It tells me to think for myself, and that if God existed He would not want me (personally) to believe, without question or personal input, the musings of organized religion or, on the other hand, ungrounded spiritual movements, and that is a big asset to my Inner Spiritual...to have thought out faith, not blind faith.

So, I accept both voices. And I also know that an Ephipany will come in time, as powerful if not more than the current force of my Athiest. And at that time,the tide of the Athiest will again receed and the Spiritual will regain its place in my psyche.

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Evergreen by Gavin Mikhail.

We all know what its like to drive with a passenger seat driver, also known as back seat driver. It isn't an easy or pleasurable experience, is it? We're just doing our own thing, driving our own car, and we have a passenger, with likely all good intentions, whose trying to control our wheel through instructions...WHILE we're driving.

Now...an occasional "watch out"could save us from an ugly, dangerous situation, and that type of passenger could indeed be helpful. But, a passenger sitting next to you, telling you "watch the car to your right", "you're going too slow", "you've gotta merge in more aggressively and smoothly", "slow down", "speed up", "the light is turning yellow", "your route is wrong...follow my directions...I can get you there faster"...can, in fact, cause an accident. And, at the very least, causes the driver a very stressful experience, makes the driver either combative or question his or her own driving skills, and ruins the experience of a nice, mutually enjoyable ride together.

Withour doubt, the driver is driving while being on edge and protective of his or her own self. The passenger, on the other hand, is really thinking that he or she is being helpful by instructing the driver on a better way to drive. He or she cannot see that what they're really doing is vying control of the situation, causing stress and usually making the driver a less efficient and less safe driver.
We can all see this clearly, right?

So now lets apply the same principals to a different situation. What about when someone is offering unsolicited advice on how one should live their life. The "passenger seat driver" still has all good intentions, but is actually destroying the quality of life for the person they are trying to help. "Don't spend so much money", "you're being too nice to him/her", "you're with your friends too much", "why spend so much money eating at THAT restaurant", "you dont know how to save money...you'll be sorry later" "he's/she's not good enough for you", "you're too close to your parents", "you're spoiling your child", "children want rules, and you don't know WHAT you're doing...its done THIS way", "you can't be told ANYTHING can you...you just can't take any advice", and on and on and on. Its endless. One critical instruction after another, all in the guise of "being helpful", and "saving you from a big mistake". Its convoluted.

People, keep in mind that it is not our job to live someone else's life, nor to save others from their own karma. And, also keep in mind that it IS TRULY OUR JOB to live our OWN karma.  Solicited advice (versus unsolicited advice), a helpful conversation here and there, or intervening when there is a true crisis pending is not the same as directing someones major (and minor) moves in life.  Its unnatural to do that to anyone, so, if you find yourself over-controling someone else, catch yourself (choice), and learn how to control your OWN Inner Judge, Inner Helper, and Controller...instead of controlling OTHERS.  If you find yourself BEING over controller and pushed around, catch yourself (choice), and learn how to gently push back (SELF PROTECTOR), to remember to do things YOUR way and to do what makes YOU happy (SELF Pleaser, instead of pleasing others), and to develop your own inner personal way of doing things.  And, when necesary, pulling away and loving from afar may be the only way to protect yourself, although you need to watch that this doesn't become a lifelong habit.

Resist controlling others...resist being an intrusive helper...resist meddling.  Care for yourself...do things your way if you feel your life is working...believe in your own life...resist pleasing at the expense of yourself...be authentic.

Balance is the Path - One Woman

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